Why and How I Always Offer Help When Asking For Help

We all know it's not just about what we know; it's about who we know. We can't go through life alone.

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I've been doing a whole lot of networking lately, reaching out to friends, former coworkers, and anyone I haven't talked to in a while. I'm trying to get back out there, find my next career move, and figure out what I'm going to do next. Honestly, I hate asking for help. It's just not something I enjoy doing, but I know it's essential, and I need the support.

We all know it's not just about what we know; it's about who we know. We can't go through life alone.

Offer Help While Asking for It

When I'm out there talking to people, asking for help, I can't help myself but offer assistance in return. So, don't just ask, "How can I help?" Instead, offer specific help.

As I've been doing this, I've noticed there's a bit of a framework to doing it successfully. And you know me, I love a good framework! Here’s how you can effectively ask for and offer help during your networking efforts:

1. Actively Listen

First and foremost, genuinely care about what the other person is saying. As you're having that conversation, ask them questions and learn more about them. Take what you know and dive deeper. Ask follow-up questions and piggyback off the previous topics they've been discussing. As I like to say, "Let's double-click into that." Let's go a little deeper.

2. Be Specific and Engaging

While you're asking questions, think about what or who you might know that could help them. Engage in some small talk, but make it specific. Ask about their kids if you know they have a family. If they have any hobbies or interests, inquire about those. If you know where they live, ask about local events, sports, or even the weather—anything to show you're engaged and interested.

3. Offer to Help or Make Connections

After you've dug in a bit, it's time for the closing line. Offer to help or make a connection. Think about who you know that could be beneficial for them. Part of networking is leveraging the people you know. You're doing a lot of networking, so there must be someone you could connect them with or offer some help.

Have you read or seen something that could provide valuable information or inspiration to them? Offer it up. Be helpful and proactive.

4. Follow Through on Your Offer

This should go without saying, but always follow through on your offer. Try to get it done right after the call or on the same day as the conversation. Put it on your to-do list to make sure it happens. Don't just offer help—actually helping is just as important as offering it.

5. Be Respectful and Non-Pushy

And finally, don't be pushy. Be respectful in your approach. Maybe this is a little something I learned from sales, but always be offering help and always have that next step in mind. As you're asking for help and seeing what they can do, reciprocate. It always pays off tenfold. Remember, it's not always about the instant gain—you're playing the long game.

The Bigger Picture: Building Relationships

Building relationships with people, being helpful, engaged, and serving others is one of the most rewarding experiences in life.

That’s what I’ve got for you this week.

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